Drain the cauliflower and add to a high speed blender with the onion, garlic, milk, parmesan, dijon mustard, lemon juice, red pepper flakes, sea salt, and black pepper. Blend on high until smooth, creamy, and warm, scraping down the sides every so often. This can take anywhere from 3 - 5 minutes.
1 cup milk, ⅓ cup parmesan, 1 teaspoon dijon mustard, 1 tablespoon lemon juice, ¼ teaspoon red pepper flakes, ¼ teaspoon sea salt, ⅛ teaspoon black pepper